Three Benefits To Feeling Insecure
Nearly everyone in the world has felt insecure about themselves at some point in their lives; from their physical appearance to their academic performance, and from their careers to their relationships. People tend to compare themselves to others, blaming themselves when they fail to live up to these expectations and feeling dispirited about their own circumstances.
“Insecurity is a form of anxiety,” writes William Berry in an article for Psychology Today. “When one is insecure about oneself, it is due to a preoccupation with not measuring up to one’s perception of others, or other uneasiness that causes self-doubt.”
Without a doubt, insecurity is an extremely negative emotion – one that makes you second-guess your own skills and capabilities, as well as one that leaves you feeling disappointed about yourself.
But while feeling insecure never feels good, it can’t be denied that it does have a few benefits, helping us grow and develop as individuals, and allowing us to forge better connections with the people around us.
With that, here are three reasons why insecurity can be advantageous for us.
You’re More Realistic
We’re always encouraged to be more confident in ourselves, however, too much confidence often does more harm than good. More often than not, being overly self-assured leaves you blind to potential problems, as well as unable or even unwilling to see red flags. This is the reason why many business ventures are unsuccessful; entrepreneurs are often so optimistic and confident in their ideas that they fail to take note of situations or developments that would prove to be disadvantageous to them.
While confidence is always good, a dose of insecurity and pragmatism never hurts.
You’re Open To Criticism
Individuals who are overly confident in themselves tend to be unreceptive and immune to constructive feedback. Because of this misplaced self-assuredness, they frequently fail to take advantage of opportunities that would allow them to improve their own skills and capabilities. To add to that, it renders them unable to work past their weaknesses.
On the other hand, those who feel insecure about themselves are more open to being criticized. They perceive these as chances for growth and development, helping them maximize build on their strengths. For insecure individuals, constructive feedback is nothing more than a way to figure out how to be better.
You’re More Likable
The thing about being too loud and proud about one’s self-confidence is that it often comes across as arrogant and boastful. People don’t like individuals who constantly toot their own horn, giving unsolicited advice and talking endlessly about their accomplishments.
However, individuals who are more open about their weaknesses and can admit freely that they aren’t the smartest or the best person in the room are held in high regard. This openness about their vulnerabilities and insecurities makes them more down to earth and likable.
Of course, these benefits don’t mean that you should go out of your way to feel insecure, constantly bringing yourself down with negative self-talk, and doubting your capabilities. While insecurity does have a few advantages, it’s important to remember that it can also prevent you from reaching your goals.
What you need is balance – a healthy amount of self-confidence and a healthy amount of insecurity. This combination will allow you to move through life, self-assured yet still realistic and willing to change.